Why losing doesn’t mean failing

I’ve just returned from a mini-retreat to Jeffrey’s Bay, a little surf town up the East Coast of South Africa. We head up that way every winter for the good surf, except this year, being 7 months pregnant, I was really just waddling around, eating everyone else’s food and instagramming.


Perfect Jeffrey’s Bay

With the World Cup Soccer on at the moment, we made sure to stay in a spot with DSTV and a cosy fire place to keep us warm at night ( if you’re ever heading up that way).

The opening game was Brazil vs Croatia and of course who could forget Brazil’s own goal scored in the 11th minute of the match! What a shocker! Over the next few days we landed up watching a few games here and there – I’m not much of a TV sports fan, but it was kind of exciting to watch, soccer isn’t nearly as difficult for me to understand as rugby is so I managed to keep up.

I can’t remember the exact match we were watching one evening, but being the only 2 girls on the trip, myself and my friend Jolandi were starting to get into this particular match. We would get amped and cheer whenever a goal was scored, paying absolutely no attention to which team was actually scoring. Of course, the boys thought we were mad – “what so you just cheer no matter who scores a goal then?” Yes, yes we do!

The thing is, in sport, life, love, work, school, basically everything – there will always be a “loser”.

Someone always gets the raw end of the deal, disappointment will be felt.

Whether you’re playing against another team, or you’re stacking the odds up against yourself to achieve a goal – at the end of the day it’s all just an experiment.

If you lose – try not to think of it as a failure, but rather a little bit of extra life experience that you’ve gained in order to take the next step and be more knowledgeable, aware and in tune the next time around.

Maybe your path changes completely. Or maybe, just maybe, this time you could… it’s up to you to fill in the blank!

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2 Responses to Why losing doesn’t mean failing

  1. jennisouthey June 19, 2014 at 12:40 pm #

    what’s your instagram name? Would love to follow you. thanks

    • Shannon June 19, 2014 at 5:29 pm #

      Hey Jenni, my instagram account is ‘desiredriven’ – I’ll look out for you and follow back!

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